I will wait for the one God chooses.

So, lately I can't stop thinking about relationships and marriage. It feels so ingrained in me. You know? Because my mind and heart has been set on serious relationships I have decided there are certain qualities and conditions that I will not compromise. In fact, I am going to be so bold as to say that you shouldn't either. If that sounds too strong, read what comes next and think about these things, pray about them, and read some scripture on relationships, too.

I want a man who is willing to work and provide for me and, someday, my family.
I want a man that will continue to fight for my heart even when we've been married for 20+ years.
But more than anything, I want a man who wants God more than he wants me.

Let's talk about that last one because I can't seem to get that one out of my head. By that statement I mean that I desire a man who is crazy about God-- not the hype at a Skillet concert, not in the number of "Amens" he says on Sunday morning, but I desire a man who will follow what God wants before what I want as his wife. That's crazy. Once a man has his heart right with God the other things will start to fall into place. I know that.

And I'm not looking for anyone perfect. Here's what I know and what I'm operating off from right now: the habits that I am forming today will be who I become tomorrow. So, I am working on getting closer to God and growing up in Him and getting to know him.

I know, too, that I am not made for marriage, but made for God.

Question: Is the guy that I'm interested in marrying-- is he growing close to God?


Girls, seriously, you are worth more than you know. I encourage you to believe that you are worth more than diamonds. Your Father made you so uniquely for this time, right now. Guard your heart and set standards for yourself. Start praying for a Godly future spouse if you haven't (and want to get married). Just remember, that grace is a beautiful thing... you are just right just as you are. God gives incredible grace... all we have to do is go to Him. 

God is taking care of this desire in my heart. I know He is working it out in His time. And He wants to do the same thing for you.

So in closing... don't just throw your heart at a guy-- even if he is a Christian.
As a pastor said today, "Do you want to marry a nice Christian boy, or a godly man?"